comparison is the thief of joy

It’s been some time since I’ve done a post about what bloggers are doing that’s annoying the pants off of me and since I’ve noticed an uptick in one huge thing, I figured there is no time like the present.

There is a lot of comparison going on right now and I think it’s taking a turn into sad town because it’s leading to a lot of copying. This is not cool for a few reasons. One, your screwing someone else and two, you’re screwing yourself.

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Sure your blog may be growing a lot now that it’s a lot like so-and-so’s but guess what? They’re taken. That may be a tough pill to swallow, so get a bigger glass of water.

It is real easy to get caught up in the “keeping up  with the Jones’” that goes on in the blogosphere but it does you a huge disservice. Mostly because as fast as your star got bright, it will fade. The person with the cool collages this week may not be cool next week and then what are you going to do? Hitch your wagon to a new star? Why don’t you just be you?

I guess that’s scary. But as someone who hasn’t seen overnight blog success (or even at all – since we’re being honest) this makes me want to kick your ass because it’s beyond lame. Be yourself, guys! What kind of life will you have if all you do is compare yourself to someone else? How will you be happy if you’re consistently comparing your beginning to someone’s middle?

You won’t. That’s pretty much the short version of the story. You’ll set yourself up for failure and disappointment. The truth is, not everyone is going to get famous blogging or get a bunch of free shit; that just isn’t how it works. So just make your blog about you and what you love. If people like it, awesome. If people don’t, screw them.

Comments

  1. DJ (@werejustdandy)November 16, 2012 at 8:23 am

    These are my favorite kinds of posts. Bloggers do so many obnoxious things, they (we?) need someone to keep them (us) in line. CHRISTIN FOR PRESIDENT.

  2. Alex @ ifs ands & ButtsNovember 16, 2012 at 8:59 am

    Oh how I enjoy your blogging rants. Sometimes, I wonder why people even have blogs if all they’re going to do is copy.

  3. whitneyNovember 16, 2012 at 10:01 am

    amen sista.

    because this is annoying as shit.

  4. ashleyNovember 16, 2012 at 10:26 am

    perfectly said! xo.

  5. Grace - Stripes & SequinsNovember 16, 2012 at 10:40 am

    AMEN!! Loved this. Please bring the blogging rants back, my dear!

  6. JuliaNovember 16, 2012 at 11:03 am

    Agree with Grace — we need more honesty in the blogosphere/your commentary. PEOPLE NEED TO STOP COPYING!

  7. LottieNovember 16, 2012 at 11:27 am

    totally agree with this–you need to have your own voice otherwise what is the point?

  8. AlexNovember 16, 2012 at 11:44 am

    AMEN. I’m sick of looking at a blog and seeing something so fake. It’s not cute. It’s super annoying and makes me not want to be friends with you.

  9. TaylorNovember 16, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    thank you lord!!!! But i think ppl also need to stop feeling like they are the ONLY person who saw a certain shirt or dress. Chances are if it is cute and from a major retailer lots of ppl like it, so get over the fact that i may like it too.

  10. HollieNovember 16, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    I think hardly anything is original anymore. ‘New’ is a redesign of something someone else has done. 90% of my wardrobe (with the exception of my super unpopular Girl Scouts shirt and oversized faded black college sweatshirt that I still wear in public) is something I’ve been inspired by or to be brutally honest something Kate Spade or DVF told me to like. For instance, recently I saw Julia at Girl Meets Glam and Kendi at Kendi Everyday rock collar necklaces and I thought it was adorable. You better believe I snatched one up at Nordstrom last night when I saw a cute one. So yeah, I copied them and I may or may not mention it on my blog post. But I’m pretty confident they copied someone else too. If someone grows and wants to change their blog to something new, go for it. I guess since I don’t know the specific blogs you’re talking about it it’s hard for me to 100% agree. I have seen the collage thing blow up with a few blogs I read sometimes….and to be honest….it gets boring. Most of the time I don’t like what’s on their collages anyways! :X If I get bored with content or can’t relate anymore I just don’t read. I love your rants and I agree that you should be true to yourself and voice your own opinion on your blog. On my blog, I recently bagged on this chick for calling me a stupid bitch in another bloggers comment section. I got a few emails like I can’t believe you’d stoop to her level and ya know what…it’s MY blog. I didn’t write it for you, I wrote it for me. So anyways, keep up your honesty!! But my question to a lot of the commenters on this post is this–what’s the last thing you did that was *truly* original?

  11. Liz SchneiderNovember 16, 2012 at 2:31 pm

    I’ve missed your Friday posts. Could not agree with you MORE! And the thing is, everyone else notices you copying too! Silly people. xoxo

  12. {av} | {long distance loving}November 16, 2012 at 3:40 pm

    amen to the max. can I admit to something? I barely read blogs anymore because I just. can’t. take. the. repetition.

    I want originality…is that so much to ask? thank you for saying what so many people are thinking. xoxo {av}

  13. Lisa // ElembeeNovember 16, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    I love your don’t be annoying posts and second, third, fifth, whatever the sentiment to keep them up!

    To Holly’s comment, yes, there are a limited number of products and trends to blog about, so there is bound to be some overlap. However, I think originality comes in with the way you present it — by being true to yourself, you can provide a perspective that is unique to you. In other words, tell a story, make it personal, don’t just regurgitate photos from Pinterest!

  14. CarrieNovember 16, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    Holler on all this business. Irritated the shit out of me so much I barely blogged this year. Friggin A. Get an idea and go with it people.

  15. ShaneléNovember 26, 2012 at 10:33 pm

    Amen. It annoys the livin out of me…and is SO incredibly obvious when people do it. My blog has never taken off but it makes me and I think my group of followers (albeit small) happy…which is all I really care about.

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